Three and a Half Minis

All of you were created amongst varying circumstances, somewhat a shift in my emotional stance, yet I loved you from the very first moment I knew you were blossoming inside of me. Some test reveals were harder to digest than others, but intuition steamed ahead and prevailed. Through each setback and challenge my instincts formulated the beautiful bond harvested between my minis and me!

Many are curious when they spot the tribe and myself at a glance or from afar. Already, they have begun composing their own logic of understanding for what settles their misguided judgement. Many are also in awe and fascinated with the attributes naturally bestowed upon the trio, whilst half mini continues to bask in the glory and wonder of my womb. Few take a moment to question me on my kid’s origin, husband’s nationality, or genetic combination. But all are silenced when I divulge! You see, there is no way you could preconceive the who, what, where, when and why theory with my family, but you can accept, acknowledge and appreciate the diversity, the love and the openness we have manifested and continue to share. Each child has been a resident of my womb, and each child has aided me in my own growth, health, wellbeing and emotional stability yet instability.

Kayden, the eldest who fascinates everyone he meets with his intricate perception on life and all that encompasses this life. A child who portrays himself to be so self consumed and self absorbed yet is the first to offer assistance, acknowledge you, embrace a total stranger, exchange a cuddle and a kiss for absolutely nothing in return, yet generates a sentiment of perplexity at the progress of so many of his individual skill sets. He questions everything, and monotonously repeats himself even after you’ve acknowledged the request or statement. He doesn’t harvest a competitive nature and is content in allowing others to shine although resents not being rewarded for his absence in effort – figures assistants deserve to be fully compensated as well. A child who dances to the beat of his own drum, music, or even lack thereof! He is easily frustrated with the demands of today’s societal requirements and would much prefer to formulate his own daily desires. He was placed on this earth to widen my perspective, develop my need for patience and intrigue all those interested in sparing more then a fleeting moment to meet him.

I’ll return to Middle #1 and skip to Knox. Knox inhabits a very likeable personality. A typical boy who is easily pleased. He can entertain himself for hours building tracks for trains, cars, bikes and buses and only surfaces for food, water or sleep. Sounds like music to a parent’s ears am I correct? He looks intently into another’s eyes, is curious about everything and aspires to learn at the same pace as his older brothers. His emotional maturity for his age astounds me. He articulates his every feeling whether he is scared, shy, happy, sad, hungry, thirsty, tired and doesn’t hesitate to state what he desires. He is disappointed within himself if he can not reach the same milestones as his brothers even after receiving reassurance that he is a mere 2 and a half year old toddler. A mastiff in a terrier’s body! He screams out his frustrations loud and clear and doesn’t back down unless a better offer is generated. He is thoughtful, caring, shares well, charismatic and extremely entertaining and funny!! In his learning environment, educators confess their sheer love and compassion for Knox. They are amused by his personality, his yearning for physical contentment (cuddles and kisses) and his entertainment value!

Now my dear Kael, he is our observer. He is spiritual, he is charming, he is astute, he is athletic, he is captivating, and he is intriguing. Kael displays a very calm manner, and is content is various circumstances and scenarios. Some days he offers a million stories and others he would prefer to dive into his own realm of silence and observation. Today, as we sat and composed music, we had a moment of silence, Kael turned to me and said, “Mummy, you are beautiful.” I, of course, acknowledged the generous compliment which was followed by “I love this house the best. This house is warm. It makes me feel the happiest. I love my bed. My brothers. I love everyone in my family!” He creates so many heartfelt moments that totally enrich the soul. I believe his openness with his emotions paired with the intensity of his eye contact have you impaired completely. You are yielded by his intoxicating and debilitating charm! He has left me speechless countless times and I feel completely immersed in the love that surrounds his vocabulary. Kayden possesses this same ability. He lacks the strength to generate the eye contact to sustain the delivery but he is very affectionate, preferring to provide a physical fill instead of verbal.

I suppose my connections with the three are strengthened or weakened depending on what contributions assist in my cup running over, but collectively each child provides an abundance of energy, contentment, honesty, and love within our home. As we draw nearer to welcoming baby boy #4, and I grasp onto the bond between the three tighter, I feel as if they are already bidding for more attention. They are aware that there will be another shift in the dynamics and the time must once again be divided, but I assure them there is an abundance of love to envelop them all. I may only possess two arms, but I’ve also been blessed with 3 and a half minis! My cup runneth over….