Dear Sons,

(Part 2)

At present, you are the tender ages of 8, 6, 4 and just shy of 2, but yet I feel prompted to share these key points of advice. Yes, I’m disclosing what I’ve learnt through experience in the hopes you manifest healthy relationships in your, very distant, future years.

I have been procrastinating in delivering this blog, as if it’s the final chapter, disregarding the fact that it’s ONLY Part 2 in my memoirs to you! So here we go, on my conquest to keep you seemingly informed, in my opinion, here’s my suggestions:-

01.
Communication is Key

• Communication is key. Talk about every and anything. Nothing should be off limits with the right person. Set goals together, and confide in each other. Transparency is key. Build an unbreakable bond where trust can not be doubted nor questioned. Most importantly ask your partner daily “How are you?” When they answer, listen, and listen intently.

02.
Share the Workload

• Share the workload. Share it all. This includes, but is not limited to, the mental, physical, psychological, and financial workloads. Discuss an achievable balance where each partner feels supported and valued. We all inhibit strengths and weaknesses. If we can discuss them, and support each other where needed the relationship will have an indestructible foundation.

03.
Take the Initiative

• Take the initiative. Don’t wait to be asked or instructed. Open your eyes and view what needs to be done. Actions speak louder than words.

04.
Fill Your Partner’s Cup

• Fill your partner’s cup in a selfless manner. Yes, that means don’t fill your partner’s cup with things that fill yours. Also, accept that it is impossible to pour from an empty cup – this applies to both parties!

05.
You Both are Priority

• In a relationship, you both are priority. Make sure to find time to connect or reconnect it is important. Value your time together.

06.
Accept Responsibility and Accountability

• Accept responsibility and accountability. Just like it takes two to tango, it takes two to share in sustaining and maintaining a relationship. Multiple hands create light work.

07.
Love and Laughter are Well Partnered

• Love and laughter are well partnered. Make sure there is ample of both!!

08.
Don’t Just Dream…DO!

• Don’t just dream….DO!! Verbalising your dreams without exerting effort to make them come true only leads to feelings of disappointment. The world needs more dreamers who do, opposed to dreamers who don’t.

09.
Love Your Family and Friends

• Love your family and friends. They are important. They’ll support you through the peaks and troughs of any relationship. Having separate friendships is also imperative, this increases individual support systems, which are crucial.

10.
It’s OK to Show Emotion

• It’s ok to feel and show emotion. You haven’t lost your masculinity because you’ve shed a tear. However, it is important to dry those tears and carry on. Life’s too short for prolonged sorrow.

11.
Love and Be Loved

• Love and be loved. Open your heart, both unrestrained and unrestricted, and share it. Even through loss we learn. I hope for an eternal love full of happiness for you all, one in which you feel wholesome and unquestionably secure.

I am certain this list is endless, but here’s a start. Part 2 complete, at least for now!